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Saying I love you...there are one of 3 ways you can go on this.

Daniel, Little Rock: Can you use jealousy to raise interest level?

Brainwashing, Maxim Magazine: They make a claim that a woman is in control when she initiates the touching. The statement couldn't be any further from the truth. Hear Doc's take on it.

R.K., Laguna Beach: Can arranged marriages work?

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Celebrity File: Madonna and Kristen Bell describe the type of men they want and the guys are right out of THE SYSTEM.

Ray, Lanexa: He questions a line in Doc's latest article that states that you should never define a relationship early on. He wants to know why.

What Do Women Want: Judy watched "Doc Love At Venice Beach" at www.doclove.com and saw Doc ask a group of women what they would change about men. Judy tells us what she would change and it's quite interesting.

You Changed My Life: A mental health counselor that is also a college instructor pursuing his doctorate thinks THE SYSTEM should be in every college curriculum.

Brainwashing: Women freak out for no reason according to this article. The article shows you how to deal with this. Doc wonders why you'd even want to be around a woman that freaks out for no reason.

MySpace: There is a joke bulletin floating around entitled "Five Rules For Men To Live A Happy Life" that you'll enjoy.

Robbie, Auckland: Where and when should he be pursuing home phone numbers?

You Changed My Life: Tim dated 40 bad apples as he calls them before he found a good one. His letter points to the PATIENCE that SYSTEM students must have.

Brainwashing: USA Magazine quotes a WOMAN'S RIGHTS expert for custody issues that directly impacts MEN'S RIGHTS. We're still scratching our heads on this one.

Brainwashing: "Fighting Your Spouse Can Be Good For Your Health" according to a way off-base article that a student found for us.

Brainwashing: Say "I love you" at least 4x per day if you want the spark back in your relationship. This only works for parrots.

Brainwashing: An article teaches women how to cancel dates at the last minute. You have to hear this nonsense.

Men's Health: If you want muscles but want to be a loser with women, read Men's Health. Trying to move on from a breakup? DON'T follow Men's Health on this one.

Aaron, Richmond: "I don't like to kiss" was the response he got on the 3rd date with her. Yet, she says she still likes him. Find out how THE SYSTEM has helped save Aaron lots of time and money.

What can you learn from studying a 2-year old? How does it relate to THE SYSTEM?

Daniel, Little Rock: Find out why Doc recommends that Daniel STAY OFF sites like Facebook and MySpace if he wants to be successful with women.

Carolyn Hax- BAD advice for 2 different questions. The first deals with a man asking a woman out multiple times and the second has to do with a financial imbalance between a couple.

Men's Health: If you want muscles but want to be a loser with women, read Men's Health. Jimmy The Bartender is back giving HORRIBLE love advice to men. He tells a guy how to win over his girlfriend's brothers and tells another man how he should break it to his buddy that he shouldn't ask his girlfriend to marry him. Find out why Jimmy should stick to pouring drinks instead of giving love advice.

Braden, Toronto: What are the rules for dating an ex-girlfriend's best friend?

Ben: You Changed My Life Letter.

Dear Abby Brainwashing: She wants to take a break from the romance and Abby advises him to stay in the game. You can't believe how BAD this advice is.

We close the show out by breaking down brainwashing in 3 different movies. See how Hollywood is getting in on the act by giving you bad perceptions about dating and women.

Carolyn Hax- Example of causing a conflict where one shouldn't exist.

Neil, Vancouver: How long should it take for a woman to ask you to be exclusive with her?

Brainwashing, Andrea Sachs (Book Reviewer for Time): Like the Carolyn Hax example from segment 2, she causes conflict where none exists.

Interesting Observations & Brainwashing: Woman with a boyfriend spoke about ANOTHER guy that she's into and it's implied in a movie that being reluctant to tell someone you love them is a sign of immaturity.

The bad and the good close out the show. Bad: A 5 year old kid is being told by his mother that she's going to divorce his father. Good: 5 signs she's into you (excellent advice from a woman writer for once)

Two cartoons that are hurting men's causes and a guy that had THE SYSTEM and still married the WRONG WOMAN.

Psychology Study: Proves THE SYSTEM

Dear Abby: Surprise, surprise. Abby sides with an ungrateful/structured wife.

You Changed My Life: THE SYSTEM helps good men end up with good women

John, Salt Lake City: What is too big an age gap? He dated a woman 10 years his junior and is concerned that was too big of a stretch.

Peter, Vancouver: He's been out on about 4 dates with a co-worker. She turned her head on a date when he went in for a kiss but then asked him out for another date. Mixed signals for sure. What should Peter do?

Brainwashing: What do you do when your lady sides with a 5 year old over you?

Brainwashing: Your woman wants you to be jealous? Plus, Yahoo has 5 steps that should allow you to date a co-worker. Find out how bad both of these are by listening to Doc's take.

Jerry, Toronto: Continued

Yahoo Personals Brainwashing: Lauren's 10 first date tips for men. Some are ok. Some will really hurt your cause.

Mike, Orange: How do you respond when a woman talks about an ex?

Yahoo Personals Brainwashing: We continue on with Lauren's 10 first date tips for men from the 2nd segment.

Dear Abby Brainwashing: She's got an old diary filled up with stories about her exes. He's got old pictures of girlfriends. Find out what Abby says about it then listen for Doc's take (which is different than Abby's. Surprise, surprise).

Brainwashing: Doc's student passed a billboard for a jewelry company selling men on the idea of buying stuff for their ladies that said "Make her ex-boyfriend even more jealous." An interesting take is brought out here.

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Celebrity File: Ashton Kutcher said what??? And, Ed McMahon is in financial trouble after a lifetime of success due in part to poor decisions with women.

Remember the "Dear Abby" brainwashing we had last week where we advocated telling a woman to get rid of stuff relating to her ex? A lot of you wrote in that we were telling guys to be whiny but not so fast, says Doc.

John, Toronto: John wants Doc to correct his lack of self-control with women.

Ray, Edmonton: He's giving her 10 grand worth of trinkets but she still won't go out with him. Ray is confused but won't be after talking to Doc.

John, Philadelphia: Got her number in class. Should he wait 5-9 days to call her even though he's going to see her in class again?

Brainwashing: Miss Manners has advice for a guy that has an ex that treats him like dirt. We don't even get to the stupid advice she has but use this to illustrate how important it is to lose the number of your ex.

MSN Dating & Personals, "Ask Lynn": She broke up with him and may be pregnant. Hear Lynn's whacky advice

Carolyn Hax: She committed to the town jerk instead of the "nice guy." You won't believe what Ms. Hax has to say on the subject.

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Celebrity File: Looks like 50 Cent picked the wrong woman since she allegdly burned his multimillion dollar house down.

Men Bashing.... Example 1: Judge Maria Lopez asks that anyone that's ever been taken advantage of by a MAN to please call the show. How about just saying if ANYONE took advantage of you? Why does it have to be a man? Example 2: Bumper sticker Doc saw. "All men are idiots and I married the king." Lovely, eh?

Doc Love Mail (doclove@wsradio.com): Jacob from the UK wants to know what he should think about a girl eyeing up a guy on the street during their 4th date.

Brainwashing.......
Dear Abby: The guy treats her well but won't say he's in love. Abby's advice? Dump him, of course. She'd obviously rather the woman was with a guy that treated her like crap but parrots "I love you" all the time.

10 Fatal Online Dating Errors by Yahoo Personals: Most are good..................but a couple will really HURT YOU

Yahoo Personals, continued...

Observation: A gentleman contends that 3 years of THE SYSTEM has altered how he interprets things in the world now, for the better.

Match.com: Rules for dating a real good looking girl. Wait until you hear this.

Rod, Spokane: Wants to know how he can get tougher with women so they don't run over him.

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Celebrity File: Canadian Singer Michael Buble broke up with his girlfriend and there was an article that stated they were BOTH torn up over the breakup. Find out why Doc thinks this is a lie.

Brainwashing: Rules for dating beautiful women from Match.com.

Lists: Lots of lists to help men improve. Where are the lists for women?

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Celebrity File: Gwen Stefani wears clothes that she thinks will impress her husband. Talk about high interest level!

Celebrity File: Carey Hart & Pink. Carey Hart misses his ex-wife Pink. Go figure.

Frank, Philadelphia: A newbie to THE SYSTEM makes some basic mistakes. Find out why calling her on a Friday and responding to her text right away were a big mistake.

Medium Range Relationships: Relationships that are in the 4-8 month range. How do you remain a challenge?

Ray:
1. What is a good type of anniversary/birthday card to buy?
2. What do you do with valuable gifts from ex-girlfriends?
3. Asks Doc to expand on his latest article from www.doclove.com.

Brainwashing, Men's Health: His girlfriend wants him to have lunch with her and her ex. Wait until you hear the bad advice from Men's Health.

Brainwashing, Men's Health: Continued.

Joe: He thinks she's making him a 2nd class citizen. Find out what Doc thinks.

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Celebrity File: People Magazine really put Barack Obama down.

Celebrity File: Selma Hayek just had a baby and then she and her guy broke up. Go figure.

Getting Screwed: He broke up with his fiance' and now he has to pay $150,000?

Andrew, Vancouver: Met a girl from HS on a dating Web site but didn't recognize her right away and said so. Doc said this is a put down that Andrew could have avoided.

Charles, San Francisco: She cancelled a date and rescheduled for good reason. Problem is, she never did what she said she was going to do. Doc says NEXT.

Frank, Philadelphia: Asked her to hang out on Friday way too early in the dating process and called 2 days later. Frank is breaking SYSTEM rules all over the place but the girl still wants to see him. Did Frank get away with something or is the girl's interest level not as high as it could be? Find out Doc's take.

You Changed My Life: The guy has TOO MANY women. Is that even possible?

Robert, Milpitas: Should middle age men color their gray hair?

Brainwashing (Men's Health): Even though they've been dating for months everytime he goes away on business he's nearly a stranger to her when he gets back. As you may guess the advice that Men's Health and Doc offer, differ quite a bit.

Rod, Spokane: He's mostly a positive guy but sometimes he talks negative. How can he break himself of that habit?

Brainwashing (Men's Health): If a woman that you're dating asks you if you're seeing someone else, should you be straight with her? Again, the advice differs between Doc and Men's Health.

Advanced SYSTEM Thinking, continued

Brainwashing (LA Times): "Happiness Gap between men/women"

Brainwashing (Dear Abby): Should she go on a cruise with the "stand by guy" even though it might mess up her developing relationship with the "new guy?" Of course, Abby says yes. More men-bashing from Dear Abby Brainwashing (Carolyn Hax): Wait until you hear the advice Carolyn Hax gives to a guy who got blown off by a girl he had been seeing for 4 years.

Dr. Laura tells a guy to hang in there for 3 months even though his girl continually disrespects him in public. Wait until you hear her twisted logic!

What kind of guy can listen to this show? Find out the answer from Doc!

Celebrity File: Long Engagements: Oprah-16 years. Michael Bolton- 2.5 years. Is this the sign of a healthy relationship or something that's wrong?

Jon, Baltimore: She counter offered after not being able to make a date but Jon refused because he didn't want to give up control. Was he right to do that?

Brainwashing: MSN says there is a lot of "chemistry types" that figure into a relationship but Doc says there is one that you must have above all the others. Find out what it is.