The Doug Noll Show

Fear is a good thing when you might be facing a sabre-toothed tiger. It motivates you to do something: Fight or Flee or disappear into the landscape by freezing. However, fear in our complex modern society can, and often is, debilitating. Drug addiction, relationship problems, violence and abuse, and even war are all caused in large part by unconscious reactions to fear. So one of the central components of transforming conflicts of all kinds into peace is working with fear. My guest on this show has helped people deal with their fears for over a quarter century. Helene Rothschild earned a Bachelor and Master of Science Degree in Health Education at Brooklyn College, in Brooklyn, New York and she taught in High School for six years. She received a Master of Arts degree in Marriage, Family, Child Counseling from the University of Santa Clara, in Santa Clara, CA. For 26 years she has been counseling, speaking, and teaching her unique therapeutic technique. Helene's goal is to assist people all over the world to "love themselves to peace" which she believes to be the key to health, happiness, success, and our greatest contribution to world peace. She has been a published author since 1985. Her newest book is a manual for life. The title is, "ALL YOU NEED IS H A R T!, Create Joy, Love and Abundance NOW!" A Unique Guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation is available on her website www.lovetopeace.com. The key to inner peace is to get in touch with your fear and then release it. Helene and I talk about how most fear-driven behaviors originate in early childhood. Early experiences create scripts that play over and over throughout our lives, creating emotional chaos.
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In any intimate relationship, there are really three relationships. Two of the relationships are relationships we have with ourselves. No relationship will truly be intimate unless both of the partners have high self-esteem. In other words, Helene says, they have a good relationship with themselves. The third relationship is based on communication—the bridge between the partners. When a relationship is dysfunctional, it is because there is low self-esteem or poor communication. When anger arises it is an indicator of fear, hurt, or powerlessness. In relationship conflicts, the key to good communication is being able to say how you feel, e.g., “I feel afraid.” “You” statements should only be used to compliment; otherwise, there is blaming and accusing.
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We talk about how fear manifests in the physical body. Helene tells us that our physical body is a literal map of our emotional state. By focusing on the fear associated with the part of our body that hurts, we can release the emotion and heal. Doug asks Helene about fear theat drives indecision. Helene tells us that we can overcome the fear of making a wrong decision by letting our Higher Self make the decision from love. She says that this is the essence of intuition or right brain processing. We too often ignore this part of our experience. By listening to our intuition, we can actually make decisions from a place of love rather a place of fear.
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Doug asks Helene how parents can be better at raising their children in a fear-free environment. Helene says that people have to learn to be parents. That requires reading, going to class, and studying. Many people are not able or willing to work hard at learning to be good parents. As a result, they pass their fears and scripts on to their children and the children end up with scripts of low self-esteem.
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