XDL Archives

Armando, Glendale: When a woman asks you to tell her about yourself through an online dating site, how do you respond?

More "Rules of Work"

Robbie, Auckland: What do you do when a girl drops you and then ignores you in public?

Mike, Orange: How do you turn a friend into a girlfriend?

Ray, Lanexa: When she asks.......
1. Are you a jealous guy?
2. Are you a leader or follower?
How should you respond?


James, St. Cloud: James knows you should never initiate touching but when and how should you reciprocate?

Robbie, Auckland: Prime example of a woman staying with you when she has LOW interest level.

You Changed My Life Letters

Bill, Dallas: He's #2 behind her career. What should he do?

Kurt, Oklahoma City: He's in love with her but knows he's not her #1 priority. Should he break off the relationship? What could he have done to avoid all this?

Joel, Chicago: Can you lose a lot of points on interest level? If so, when and how?

James, St. Cloud: He got an email from a woman at the beginning of the weekend. The rule is to wait at least a day but should he wait the entire weekend so that he's not contacting her on Friday/Saturday?

Brian, Columbia: When you go on a coffee date with a girl you met online, what do you do when she sends a thank you?

Alan, Fort Lauderdale: He's got a great house and doesn't want a woman to see it too early in case she's a mercenary. How should he proceed?

Ray, Lanexa: He called her up for a date but she sounded perplexed when he asked for Wednesday, like a midweek date was a bad thing. What should he do? Also, what does it mean when a woman won't let you pick her up?

Gino, Toronto: He met her online 2 and a half months ago and after some great phone conversations she disappeared but she's back now. How should Gino react?

Frank, Chicago: She wants him to meet her family AND HER EX-LOVER after a month of dating.

Gary, Fresno: Gary is wondering if Doc's maintenance program is just for needy women. Find out why it's for all ladies and doesn't mean that she's needy.

Robbie, Auckland: His lady displays ok interest level but is a negative person. Should Robbie give her the heave ho?

Ray, Lanexa: He's new to online dating and getting peppered with email questions such as... *What do you do for a living? *How long have you been single for? *What is love to you? *What do you seek in a relationship? How should Ray respond?

Cell Phone Rule: Never give a woman your cell # too early. Why? It's an electronic leash, according to Doc.

Brainwashing: "Men, Women and the Power of Empathy." Great title but all the book does is claim that men have no empathy.

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Napolean & THE SYSTEM: How does the ancient French Dictator relate to THE SYSTEM?

Ryan, San Diego: He just met her and she's celebrating her birthday soon. How should he handle that?

Divorce: Continued.....

Bill, Miami: The mother (upper 30's/early 40's) and daughter (19) are BOTH interested in him (he's 32 years old). He likes the daughter. How should he handle the situation?

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Celebrity File: Pink and Carey Hart breakup but they're still "the best of friends." Riiiggghhhhhhht..........

Brainwashing: "Things I've Learned From The Women That Dumped Me." Great title, right? The only thing you'll learn from the book is how to be out almost 25 bucks.

Bruce, Vancouver: Several questions... 1. How do you react when you get an email from a woman in online dating? Wait 5-9 days or shorten the process since you're strangers? 2. Where should you take her on a first date? 3. On another subject, a co-worker rejected him months ago but is now showing interest. What should he do?

Baylen, Travis City: An 18 year old guy who doesn't have THE SYSTEM yet as evidenced by the fact that he's got a girlfriend and yet they've tried to breakup a few times in the last year.

SYSTEM GUYS: Contrast Baylen with two TOUGH SYSTEM guys who dropped their girlfriend and fiance' respectively because the ladies didn't measure up to THE SYSTEM. A lot of guys wouldn't have dropped women like they did but then again, most guys let their egos get in the way.

Brainwashing: "Best Life," a new men's magazine, has an article that suggests that relationships can be saved after infidelity.

Doc Love Mail: Aggie wants to know if he can meet women on Fridays/Saturdays because his work schedule and the distance he lives away from her preclude him from dating on any other days.

Kevin, Philadelphia: Can he use THE SYSTEM to save his parents failing marriage?

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Celebrity File: Heath Ledger, Leonardo DiCaprio, Matthew McConaughey, Jeff Gordon

David, NYC: Needs some advice on a girl that he met from the internet.

Jeff, Seattle: What is the best way to meet women in a class setting? Also, Jeff wants to know if he should pursue a woman he overheard complaining about her boyfriend?

Thomas, NY (Doc Love Mail): Thinks Doc's SYSTEM, especially "challenge," is the wrong way to approach women. See what Doc has to say about this.

Miscellaneous: Well, she had interest level. She's a complete loon but she did have 100% interest level in the guy when she advertised on Craig's List for a hit man to take out his wife.

Michael, Orange County: Why are group dates no good?

Clay, NYC: He's 8 weeks in with a girl and things are going great but he wants to know how often he should be seeing her.

Daniel, Little Rock: He broke up with her, got THE SYSTEM and is now wondering if he can use it's principles to win her back.

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Valentine's Day: What do you do when you're only a few dates in with her? How do you celebrate Valentine's Day?

Body Language: How does body language relate to THE SYSTEM?

John, NYC: He's been with her for 18 months and is about to be deployed overseas. They have a long distance relationship as it is and John is afraid this will destroy it. He wants to know if he should break it off now.

John, NYC: Continued.

Brainwashing: How To Treat Her.... *I love your dress----bad *I miss the way your perfume smells when you're next to me---worse It would seem like the statements above would be good to say to a woman but find out from Doc why they're not.

Benjamin, Manchester (England): His girl of nearly 4 months says she doesn't have time for him even though they only date once per week.

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Brainwashing: Dear Abby has a letter that confirms THE SYSTEM and the concept of Challenge but tears it down. Surprise, surprise.

Ken, San Diego: Can you keep ex-girlfriends as friends? Should you hustle their friends after you breakup?

Brainwashing: Time Magazine....continued.

Jack, Vancouver: He's been on 6 dates with her and isn't sure about her interest level. If you've ever been out with a woman several times and want to know how she SHOULD be acting, listen to this call.

Jeff, Seattle: His (female) friend wants to hook him up. Should he let her plan the details since she knows the girl or should he just cut her out of the mix and talk to the girl directly?

Carl, Buffalo: What do you do when she always pesters you to say "I love you?" How do you handle her mood swings during "that time of the month?"

Kevin, Philadelphia: Wants Doc's opinion on the dating service "It's Just Lunch."

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Celebrity File: Eddie Murphy's symbolic wedding didn't go so well.

David, Miami (Doc Love Mail-doclove@wsradio.com): David's been in a slump but still tough enough to reject the 10 that was pursuing him because she didn't measure up to THE SYSTEM.

Joe, Thailand: Been in a long distance relationship with a girl for a year and a guy from her office wanted to have her over for dinner. She turned him down but it's still a MAJOR red flag.

DJ, Memphis: Wants to know what to do when he doesn't get responses from women that he approaches at online dating sites.

Mike, NYC: What is the best way to approach women that get hit on all the time like bartenders and waitresses?

Dennis, Toronto: Wants to explore the issue of female flirting.

Jermaine, NYC: Relates an interesting story he overheard 2 women having on the subway. One was talking about a guy that pursued her so much before their first date that it turned her off. A testament as to why you should have THE SYSTEM (if you don't have it already) so YOU don't act like that and blow your chances with a woman that might be interested. You can get THE SYSTEM at
http://www.doclove.com

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Celebrity File: Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman.

Jeff, Ontario: Jeff is getting the following red flags from his girl: 1. He was supposed to pick her up for a date after she was with her friends but she wanted him to give her friend a ride. 2. She's messaging a guy on Facebook. 3. She's keeping pictures of her ex. What should Jeff do about this?

Brainwashing: Dr. Phil advises a 28 year old girl/48 year old man on the age difference. Is it a dealbreaker? Find out how Dr. Phil and Doc Love differ.

Brainwashing: Suze Orman.....continued.

Bart, Los Angeles: His girl is pulling away after 15 dates or so. Are the holidays to blame? She is a single mom and was quite busy over the season. Bart thinks that's the reason. Doc has a different take as you might imagine.

William, Cleveland: A woman asked him at a party if he's on a diet. Put down? Just small talk? How should William take it?

Brainwashing: Dear Abby.....Her boyfriend refuses to see her if she's sick. Dear Abby says that maybe its excusable because he might have a good reason. Doc says he needs NO excuse and thinks Dear Abby missed something glaring in all this.

Tom, Louisville: His girlfriend is gaining a little weight. How should he handle it so she loses weight without being insulted?

Gary, Fresno: His girlfriend of 2.5 years is always telling him she loves him. How often should he say it back?

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Brainwashing File: 21 ways to make her fall in love with you. "Call the next day." "Tell her you can't wait to see her again." "Watch a sappy movie." This should be renamed "21 ways to guarantee she'll never love you." While all of it sounds good on the surface, it will greatly hurt your cause.

Vicious File: "He Had It Coming" is a new book by a woman that helps other women navigate divorce step-by-step. Don't you love the title?

Bryan, Columbia: He's dating a girl 40 miles away. Can he ask to meet her halfway for the first big date? Should he? Also, she deleted her profile from Yahoo Personals. Good sign?

Motivation File: No matter what always do one more thing. It's the people that continually apply extra effort that have the best chance to become winners. Get inspired by watching http://www.nc212movie.com (turn up your speakers).

Jeff, Seattle: A co-worker asked him to hang out. Another co-worker said she's sick of her boyfriend. 2 women that have kind of asked him out but not really and Jeff is in a slump. What should he do?

You Changed My Life: Tim loves the radio show and THE SYSTEM.

Pussycat File: What is a cougar? That's a younger man and an older woman. Can it work? Doc thinks no, but not for the reason you might think.

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Celebrity File: Sean Penn is getting divorced and the President of France is dating a beautiful model but Doc says he shouldn't be.

Female Fan File: The BEST letter Doc has ever received from a woman.

Dave, New York City: How can you be a challenge to a