XDL Archives

Robbie, Auckland: His lady displays ok interest level but is a negative person. Should Robbie give her the heave ho?

Ray, Lanexa: He's new to online dating and getting peppered with email questions such as... *What do you do for a living? *How long have you been single for? *What is love to you? *What do you seek in a relationship? How should Ray respond?

Cell Phone Rule: Never give a woman your cell # too early. Why? It's an electronic leash, according to Doc.

Brainwashing: "Men, Women and the Power of Empathy." Great title but all the book does is claim that men have no empathy.

Brainwashing....continued

You Changed My Life: Doc's student is now more aware than he's ever been thanks to THE SYSTEM

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Celebrity File: Pink and Carey Hart breakup but they're still "the best of friends." Riiiggghhhhhhht..........

Brainwashing: "Things I've Learned From The Women That Dumped Me." Great title, right? The only thing you'll learn from the book is how to be out almost 25 bucks.

Bruce, Vancouver: Several questions... 1. How do you react when you get an email from a woman in online dating? Wait 5-9 days or shorten the process since you're strangers? 2. Where should you take her on a first date? 3. On another subject, a co-worker rejected him months ago but is now showing interest. What should he do?

Baylen, Travis City: An 18 year old guy who doesn't have THE SYSTEM yet as evidenced by the fact that he's got a girlfriend and yet they've tried to breakup a few times in the last year.

SYSTEM GUYS: Contrast Baylen with two TOUGH SYSTEM guys who dropped their girlfriend and fiance' respectively because the ladies didn't measure up to THE SYSTEM. A lot of guys wouldn't have dropped women like they did but then again, most guys let their egos get in the way.

Brainwashing: "Best Life," a new men's magazine, has an article that suggests that relationships can be saved after infidelity.

Hey Cherie: She gives horrible advice to an 8th grade boy when she says it's ok for him to put his arm around complete strangers. Carolyn Hax: Basically tells a guy that keeps getting date cancellations from a woman that he should be friends with her to see what develops.

Brainwashing: How To Treat Her.... *I love your dress----bad *I miss the way your perfume smells when you're next to me---worse It would seem like the statements above would be good to say to a woman but find out from Doc why they're not.

Benjamin, Manchester (England): His girl of nearly 4 months says she doesn't have time for him even though they only date once per week.

Brainwashing: Arguing is good for a relationship? No, says Doc.

You Changed My Life: He asked for his first home phone number after having THE SYSTEM for 2 months. Even though he didn't get it, find out why its a success story.

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Brainwashing: Dear Abby has a letter that confirms THE SYSTEM and the concept of Challenge but tears it down. Surprise, surprise.

Ken, San Diego: Can you keep ex-girlfriends as friends? Should you hustle their friends after you breakup?

Brainwashing: Time Magazine....."The Science of Romance" was a huge 48 page section in Time that is full of so many half-truths and brainwashing that we had to devote an entire segment to it (plus part of the next segment).

Brainwashing: Time Magazine....continued.

Jack, Vancouver: He's been on 6 dates with her and isn't sure about her interest level. If you've ever been out with a woman several times and want to know how she SHOULD be acting, listen to this call.

Jeff, Seattle: His (female) friend wants to hook him up. Should he let her plan the details since she knows the girl or should he just cut her out of the mix and talk to the girl directly?

Carl, Buffalo: What do you do when she always pesters you to say "I love you?" How do you handle her mood swings during "that time of the month?"

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Celebrity File: Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman.

Jeff, Ontario: Jeff is getting the following red flags from his girl: 1. He was supposed to pick her up for a date after she was with her friends but she wanted him to give her friend a ride. 2. She's messaging a guy on Facebook. 3. She's keeping pictures of her ex. What should Jeff do about this?

Brainwashing: Dr. Phil advises a 28 year old girl/48 year old man on the age difference. Is it a dealbreaker? Find out how Dr. Phil and Doc Love differ.

Brainwashing: Cosmo #1.....Pretty bad when a woman writes that adultery is the forgiveable sin.

Brainwashing: Cosmo #2.....Lists 4 things that men hate. Doc thinks they missed a couple.

Brainwashing: Suze Orman.....He's rich. She's not. They're dating. Should she expect help from him? Again, find out how Doc differs from someone in the national media.

Brainwashing: Suze Orman.....continued.

Bart, Los Angeles: His girl is pulling away after 15 dates or so. Are the holidays to blame? She is a single mom and was quite busy over the season. Bart thinks that's the reason. Doc has a different take as you might imagine.

William, Cleveland: A woman asked him at a party if he's on a diet. Put down? Just small talk? How should William take it?

Brainwashing: Dear Abby.....Her boyfriend refuses to see her if she's sick. Dear Abby says that maybe its excusable because he might have a good reason. Doc says he needs NO excuse and thinks Dear Abby missed something glaring in all this.

Dear Abby: Every person I'm into is either hooked up or not attracted to me. Carolyn Hax: Boyfriend of 3.5 years is getting nagged. Lifetime TV: Woman married for the money but the guy was no good. If you can survive the above onslaught still standing then we salute you. It's a 1-2-3 punch that will wipe your brains clean of any sense if you let it.

Patience File: How does an ice cube and hard candy relate to THE SYSTEM?

Brainwashing Files: Love Doctor. Mr. David something or other says that when a woman says that she wants to take it slowly or doesn't want to date anyone right now, it means you're not being aggressive enough physically. Doc says its LOW INTEREST LEVEL. Find out why Mr. David's comments are brainwashing guys. Century 21. Check out their new ad where the husband is getting browbeaten by his wife. You can find the ad by putting "The Nastiest Wife on Television" into youtube's search box. Carolyn Hax #1. Carolyn advises not to hit on 2 friends. Doc (surprise, surprise) has the opposite opinion of Carolyn. Follow her advice at your own peril. Carolyn Hax #2. She broke up with him after finding an email she shouldn't have. He keeps letting her give him trouble over it. Carolyn again misses the mark on the advice. Find out Doc's take.

Don, Washington, D.C.: One of our favorite guys is back. Don runs a SYSTEM teaching group in Washington, D.C. You won't believe what was coming out of the mouth of a newly married bride at her reception. She was proud of the fact that now she has "him by the neck." Protect yourselves guys. Nasty women like this are out there ready to ruin your life.

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Moment of Truth File: 2 men. 2 relationships. Each one's girl pulled a dealbreaker on them. One guy walked. The other guy cried and begged to stay. Guess which on is a SYSTEM student?

Glenn Sacks: www.glennsacks.com is the official site for our guest who is a men's and father's rights expert. Interesting conversation between Doc and him that you don't want to miss.

Shape Magazine: Listen to the "girls playing hard to get" brainwashing they're trying to get us to swallow.

Jason, Orlando: He dated a girl in 2005 that had a boyfriend at the time that she wouldn't get rid of. Now she's calling him again after ditching the guy. Should Jason give her another chance? A resounding NO from Doc. Find out why.

Daniel, Baltimore: Has date #10 with Caprice. The "usual" time to make the woman your girlfriend. She hasn't passed all the tests yet, however. Find out why Doc advises Daniel to stay backed off.

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Celebrity File: The Kardashian's. Why you should never ask a woman how many guys hit on her. Hulk Hogan was clueless that his wife wanted a divorce. Paul McCartney's soon to be ex Heather Mills is denouncing the world's wealthy as she's trying to take Paul to the cleaners.

Presidential File: Mitt Romney SHOULD NOT have held his wife's hand on TV. Find out why.

Bob, Washington: Looks 10 years younger than his 44 years. He's having trouble with dating because of this. Listen to Doc's take on the matter.

Brainwashing: Time misses the mark on an article about the global gender gap.

Brainwashing: Dear Abby has 2 gems with a guy that wants permission to have an affair and a woman that refuses to give up memorabilia of her ex. Find out how Dear Abby misses the mark on both. Also, Parade has a gem about "The Bachelor" making excuses for the woman that BROKE UP WITH HIM. You'll love this story.

Leo: How do you handle text messaging?

Jeff, Seattle: Several questions. How do you respond when a girl asks what you like about yourself? What is Doc's opinion of what women do wrong? What should you do when a girl mentions that she's interested in other guys on your first date?

Good Advice: She says he's too old for his 1996 Miata. Find out how a couple of car guys give him advice that parallels THE SYSTEM.

Brainwashing: Add a couple drops of "pheremones" to your colonge and the women will come running. Right? Not so fast says Doc.

Love Doctor: One of Doc's competitors is at it again, giving guys half-truth advice that will hurt your cause. In this case the love doctor wants you to contact the lady on Saturday and be cocky with her to show her that you're in control. Does this raise interest level? This guy thinks so. Find out why he's way off base.

Ethan Hawke: Had an affair and lost his relationship. You have to hear his reasoning behind it though. It will blow your mind.

Elle Magazine Brainwashing: The woman who writes into "Dear Jean" doesn't think it's enough that her boyfriend is sweet, loving and caring.

Other Love Doctor Brainwashing: A man writes in that he sent a gift with his number to a woman that he likes. As SYSTEM students know, this is WEAK but 2 love doctors weigh in on his gesture and SURPRISE, they think he did ok.

Gift Giving: After 6 months of dating you should not only buy a girl a gift but tell her you like spending time with her. Gift giving is ok. Telling her you like spending time with her is not. Find out why.

Brendan, Spokane: How can you tell the difference between a shy woman and one that isn't interested?

Jim, Vancouver: He's had 3 dates with her and she's disappeared because she just had surgery. How should Jim contact her? What should he be doing?

You Changed My Life Letter: The SYSTEM helped a student in his karate training. Remember guys, The SYSTEM goes beyond dating. It helps in ALL aspects of your life.

Aerial, Everett: He and his buddy each met a girl and went out on a double date for their first date. MISTAKE. Find out why Doc says "no group dates."

Oprah Magazine: 2 gems. The first deals with physical attractiveness. It doesn't matter according to Oprah. The second? Jane Fonda. Need we say more?

Education File: What do you say when your mind goes blank around a woman?

Mike, Orange County: What is the best way to handle a woman that backs off?

Time Magazine: 2 items. Fathers who are doing more and more for their kids and long distance relationships can work?

Brian, Atlanta: Moving to a rural area. How do you meet a woman in a more lightly populated city?

Is Your Date A Player: Many of these tips are good. A few are not and we break down what isn't right.

George, Mobile: What happens when you're a guy in his mid-40's that looks like your in your late 20's and you don't want to date women your age? Can you get around the age difference when seeing younger women?

Kid Rock/Tommy Lee: Got into a big scuffle, probably over Pamela Anderson.

Julianne Hough (Dancing with the Stars): Says that her and her fiance are mutually taking a break. Find out why Doc smells something fishy.

Captain & Tennille: Tennille says "love may keep us together but space is important." She reflects THE SYSTEM perfectly in discussing her 30+ year union with Captain.

Lowes Commercial: Yet another commercial that makes men look stupid.

New York Times: Can you really determine a woman's attitude based on what she orders at dinner?

Joseph, Brooklyn: Little by little his wife has lost respect for him and now Joseph wants it back. How should he proceed?

Actor Terrence Howard: Should have paid more attention to his wife to avoid divorce court. It's one thing to get a woman but quite another to keep her.

Andrea, Italy: Our first call from Italy!

Dr. Phil: At it again with what Doc considers poor love advice.

Roger, Lubbock, TX: Do you need a car to employ the principles of THE SYSTEM?

Celebrity File: Kevin Bacon and his wife plus Nicole Kidman and her husband.

Mark, Seattle: Wants to know what Doc's opinion on arranged marriages.

Barack Obama: His wife says he snores and stinks. Is this loving?

Men's Health: They should do health advice but not get into the area of love.

Men's Health: They should do health advice but not get into the area of love; Continued.

Darren, West Palm: Got stood up on a date. How should he proceed from here?

10 Things You Should Do On A Coffee Date: 8 are good and 2 are really bad.

Jared, Indianapolis: She broke a date AND she is talking to her ex-boyfriend again. Jared wants to figure out how to fix the situation that Doc says is beyond repair.

Steve, Glen Falls: He has to continually leave messages because his girl won't pick up the phone. Problem? DEFINITELY.

Carolyn Hax: Our favorite columnist is at it again. What's the latest advice to hurt men? How to get an ex-girlfriend back after SHE'S DATING ANOTHER MAN. This is a real beauty.